Re: [PATCH] CODE_OF_CONDUCT: expect tolerance, not respect

From: Derrick Stolee <stolee@gmail.com>
Date: Dec 23, 2020, 14:46 UTC
Message-ID: <3d21cc06-415d-860b-7bd2-31047d68bc05@gmail.com>
In-Reply-To: <20201223061718.102779-1-felipe.contreras@gmail.com>

On 12/23/2020 1:17 AM, Felipe Contreras wrote:

> As many argued; respect cannot be manufactured at will. If you don't
> respect an idea (for example that the Earth is flat), then it doesn't
> matter how hard you try; you still will not respect it.

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Show 6 quoted lines

>  * Using welcoming and inclusive language
> -* Being respectful of differing viewpoints and experiences
> +* Being tolerant of differing viewpoints and experiences
>  * Gracefully accepting constructive criticism
>  * Focusing on what is best for the community
>  * Showing empathy towards other community members

As mentioned in 5cdf230 (add a Code of Conduct document, 2019-09-24):

    This patch adapts the Contributor Covenant Code of Conduct. As opposed
    to writing our own from scratch, this uses common and well-accepted
    language, and strikes a good balance between illustrating expectations
    and avoiding a laundry list of behaviors. It's also the same document
    used by the Git for Windows project.

It is highly recommended to stick to the widely-used and carefully crafted phrasing.

Specifically, "Being respectful" is different from "Have respect", which negates your argument for changing this word. We can only enforce what is evidenced by actual communication, not the internal lives of community members.

I could just as easily argue that it is possible to be tolerant without being respectful.

Thanks, -Stolee